• 10 Commandments To Undo My Negative Thinking

    What if there were a magical mirror in which you could see yourself as others see you? Would people see you as considerate, supportive and generous? Or do they see you as someone who is always complaining and blaming and gossiping about someone, or you’re hard to get along with and you think you’re better than others. 

    The woman (or man) who thinks she doesn’t need to change—probably needs to change more than she realizes.

  • My emotionally-charged brain always got me into trouble.

  • Dr. Dirtbag hammered me when we argued and then he denied his hurtful behavior and he blamed me for our relationship problems.

  • 3 Secret Words That Gained Me Confidence With Men

    I spent a lifetime trying to understand men and the dating process. The questions that wreaked havoc on my self-esteem were: “Why am I unable to attract the interest of a desirable man.” And “Why do men not ask me for a second date.”

    The answer to my relationship problems came to me serendipitously from a girlfriend.

  • I'm fearful and mistrusting

    Do men seem to avoid or reject you?

    You’ve been hurt by your boyfriend or husband and you swear you’ll never let another man get his hook into your heart.

    Is this you?

  • Whatever you worry most about in life, will filter the way you view your life. If the underlying driving force in your life is security, you may accept less than what you want and deserve in a relationship. 

  • She Turns Men Off

    It’s a cruel fact of life: Most single men won’t pursue you if you don’t present an attractive presence. Shallow?  Perhaps. But a man's sexual prowess is controlled by his eyes.

  • Be Thankful He Broke Up With You

    I’m thankful that my narcissistic, abusive boyfriend dumped me another woman.

    It's Thanksgiving and I want to give thanks for my many blessings.

  • Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

    Think you're overreacting?

  • Recovering From A Bad Breakup

    You broke up with your boyfriend, or you left your husband, because he cheated on you, or he was neglectful, hyper-critical, blaming and uncommunicative, or he physically or verbally abused you.

    You had a decent week without your partner around to repeatedly lie to you, berate you, or constantly tell you that you’re inept, overweight, aging and stupid.  

    And you want him back — WHY?

    Okay, guys, you broke up with your girlfriend because she was a controlling, self-serving opportunist, or she cheated on you ... and you want her back?!?

    Mistake No. 3 After a Breakup … Believing you are unlovable, unwanted or a failure because of a relationship breakup.

    Thinking you failed in a hurtful, dysfunctional relationship or marriage will undermine your self-esteem, cause you to withdraw from your friends and family, and create feelings of neediness, dejection and despair within you.

    It took years for me to overcome my low self-esteem issues. It took Dr. Dirtbag only eight months to resurrect my self-doubt and insecurity demons.

    Like most abusive men, Dr. Dirtbag built himself up by tearing me down. He belittled my abilities. He made snide remarks about my body. He told me contradicting, evasive half-truths to confuse and frustrate me. One night he callously called me a “three time loser” (referring to the number of my divorces). I knew when he said that, he would say and do anything to diminish me.  

    Before Liz married Mike she was cheerful, sassy and confident ... a year later she was depressed, uncertain and distrustful.

    Liz was a beautiful, alluring 40-year-old woman. She dated Mike a year before she married him. During their courtship Mike was considerate, doting and extremely affectionate. Two weeks after Liz married him she adorned herself with a sexy black nightie and positioned herself at the doorway of his home office.  

    “Take that off! You look like a skank!” Mike screamed at her. 

    Liz was painfully dumbstruck. It was a side of her husband she had never seen—and an obvious attempt to devalue her as a woman. 

    You can never really know a man until you live with him.

    The moment Mike married Liz he felt entitled to dominate and disparage her, criticizing everything she said and did. He carped about her cooking and the way she kept house. He criticized the food she selected in a restaurant and the shows she wanted to watch on TV. He bad-mouthed her friends. He especially ridiculed the way she dressed, saying she wore too much make-up and her hair was an ugly color. If she wore a low-cut blouse (at his request) he told her she looked like a slut. When she wore conservative clothing he told her she looked frigid and frumpy. 

    Liz knew in her heart that she was an attractive woman, but Mike’s constant put-downs caused her to doubt her self-worth. 

    A year later Liz divorced Mike and she began seeing a therapist. She told her therapist she felt stupid, unattractive and undesirable and she thought no man would ever want her. Her therapist helped her to understand that Mike’s demeaning behavior arose from his own low self-loathing and insecurities—to feel good about himself—he tore Liz down. 

    Does your ex or current boyfriend or husband make you doubt your abilities, self-worth or attractiveness? Understanding the conniving, controlling tactics of an abusive man will help you to debunk his bullcrap! 

    Never Date a Dead Animal:
    The Red Flags of Losers, Abusers, Cheaters and Con-Artists
    by Nancy Nichols 

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