If you’ve had one (1) online guy to unexplainably disappear—no biggie. But if two or more guys you were corresponding with mysteriously evaporated—Virginia, you may have a personal problem.
The no. 1 issue, that I see, that sabotages women’s dating and relationship efforts is: they are dragging the baggage of a past hurtful relationship. Their ex-boyfriend or ex-husband was unfaithful, shiftless or abusive, and so they lump all men into a cauldron of liars, cheaters and assholes. They swear they want a loving, caring man in their life, but say things like: I’m not going to put up with a man’s crap! I don’t trust men. I like my life, I don’t have to have a man.
My client Leila's repeated comment was, "How long does it take for a man to show his true side?" Leila, an attractive singe woman in her 50s, is looking for love on an online dating site.
A woman who has a “chip on her shoulder” is constantly on the subliminal defense. Her statements express how tough, how capable, and how independent she is. She sees herself as intelligent and easy-going. Others see her as narrow-minded, disagreeable and argumentative.
If you have a “chip on your shoulder,” your girlfriends may love you unconditionally, but online men will read between the email lines, decide you have a negative attitude—and he will vanish into cyberspace.
Leila felt her first date went “okay,” but two days after they met for dinner, he texted her, saying, they were not a match. And we are left wondering, what the crap happened?