Are you guilty of this?
You date a man, you develop strong feelings for him and then unexpectedly he stops calling and texting you?
Santa is checking his list for the woman whose naughty dating behaviors scare men off. Here are his top 3 naughty dating behaviors that will get you switches and coal and kill a man’s original interest in you.
- High expectations: You have a long list of must-haves and deal breakers that no man can measure up to. You automatically reject a man on superficial information: You snub him because he wears the wrong shirt, or his haircut or eyeglasses are out of date, or he is bit reserved and you discard him like the evening trash.
Naughty dating behavior, girlfriend! Your closed-minded, judgmental, critical, aura makes you to appear unfriendly and unapproachable causing you to repel the desirable men you want to meet.
Solution: You don’t want a man to size you up in 20 minutes, do you? I’m not saying you should settle for Mr. So-So. I am saying get rid of your fantasy laundry list and give a man a chance to show you his best and most enduring qualities. You may discover that the perfect man for you is wrapped in a different package.
- Dating for money: You look for a rich man to date because: (1) you’re looking for someone to take care of you because you’re emotionally immature and you need a man’s validation, or you need financial security because you’re monetarily unstable, or (2) your main interest in a man is a his bank account, expensive jewelry, clothes, automobile and property. You’re a gold-digger.
Vixen! You're a naughty gold-digger! You marry for money, possessions and security and years later, when you’re lonely and miserable, you blame your husband for your loveless relationship.
Solution: Learn to be your own person. Quality men are attracted to women who are busy, independent and confident. Love your life, work on your career, be socially active, maintain strong relationships with your family and friends and have your own interests and hobbies.
- Drunk texting your ex: You boyfriend dumps you because he’s non-committal or he wants to date other women. You miss him, you have a couple of happy hour drinks, you text him and you go to his place for a booty call—and when you don't hear back from him, you feel disappointed and devalued.
Naughty! Naughty! Naughty! You, dear girl, get a man who doesn’t respect you, a broken heart and a stocking full of STDs.
Solution: Don't try to convince yourself that you "didn't act stupid" when you drank too much, when truthfully, you did. Drinking lowers your sexual inhibitions and dilutes your resolve to cut a deadbeat man out of your life. If you can't stay off your phone when imbibing, you don’t need to be drinking.
Learn more about a woman’s bad dating behaviors that run men off in 10 Honest (and Harsh) Reasons He Doesn’t Ask You For A Second Date.
Don’t blow your chances to gain the serious pursuit of a wonderful man.
Learn the attitudes and behavior that will attract (and KEEP) a man's sincere interest in Nancy Nichols's God, Please Fix Me! Trilogy A Breakthrough in Self-Esteem, Relationship Understanding and Personal Healing for Women by Nancy Nichols
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