Your boyfriend/husband tears you down to bolster his sagging ego, making you doubt your abilities, self-worth and attractiveness.
Controlling, narcissistic, abusive partners want you to believe that YOU are one is who unreasonable and hard to get along with and YOU are the one who needs to get on medication and get counseling.
You can’t stand to be with him ... but you can’t stand to be without him. You broke off with your boyfriend or husband because he was withdrawn, neglectful and uncommunicative, or he cheated on you, or he was physically or verbally abusive. You’re trying to get on with your life without him in it.